Through browsing and discussions with friends, I have discovered that Max has little to no bed time routine. His ‘routine’ right now is:
1) Change into a sleeper
2) Breast feed around 9:30 or 10pm…whenever he is ready
3) Bottle about an hour after, so anywhere from 10:30-11:30
4) After milk drunk: place in bassinet and walk away/go to bed myself.
I have had almost zero problems with him going to bed. He does nap a bit I would say anytime from 8pm-10pm, but it isn’t consistent. For example last night he wanted to play and was content sitting in his bouncy chair “talking” to Mom and Dad. I have tried to put him in his bed after the 8pm feeding, but he doesn’t like that and cries. I do not give him a bad every day as his skin is like mine and is prone to being dry. Obviously if he shits his pants, he gets a bath. I have not started story time with him yet, but I am going to get on that soon.
I am guessing I am feeling bad because I am hearing that some people spend hours with their babies at night time with a ‘bed time routine’. I know very well that once Max is a bit older, we will have a routine as once he starts moving around and eating solids, daily baths and story time will be necessary (JAM HANDS!!!).
Nap time routine
I do not have a solid routine during the day. Our mornings are pretty set. We wake up around 6am-7am (sometimes earlier, never later than 7 as I won’t let him go that long). I feed him, change him and he goes down for another snooze til about 10am (it is 9:30am now and he is stirring, but not awake yet). After that…..no routine. I do try and do something in the afternoon via the stroller or car to try and get him to sleep. He refuses to lie down in his bassinet during the day, which is just silly considering I have zero problems at night. He will nap in his car seat (meaning we are out…I do not put him in the car seat in the house), stroller and sometimes bouncy chair.
I have heard that babies get used to their sleepy routines and it can be ‘bad’ *not liking using this word, but whatever* to keep holding and rocking your baby to get him/her to sleep. Meaning: they get used to it and want it all the time. There is also the co-sleeping/bed-sharing debate. I only bed share in the morning, on weekends as I prefer to be wide awake. Max had a pretty bad early morning in his pack and play on Sunday, so I took him out of that and let him sleep with us, but at that time it was 5am, so I really don’t care about that (P is normally up by then). Max sleeps in our room and I am very hesitant to move him to his own room quite yet. I like that he is in our room. I know that I will have to move him eventually though 🙂
Anyhoo….speaking of sleeping, Max is up….lates!